How to overcome regret and not be a cog in the wheel of life

Regret Don't waste time small talk
Don’t waste time on small talk

Regrets of the Dying

  1. Didn’t have the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. Regretting working so hard
  3. Not having the courage to express my feelings.
  4. That I hadn’t stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Regret Spend less time on ruminating regret
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Spend less time on ruminating regret

The science of regret: what you did vs. what you wish you did

Car crash example

Rumination

Regret: Write your book
Write your book: page 70

John the banker: TIFU my whole life

Despair and regret: Tomorrow will be just like today

The bronze-medal mindset

Why don’t we give ourselves a break?

  1. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone you love.
  2. Reach out to someone you trust — someone who can hear your story and is able to respond with empathy.
Regret:Talk to a friend in your community
Talk to a friend in your community

Chadwick Boseman on Purpose

Regret and Purpose: Chadwick Boseman's Howard University 2018 Commencement Speech
Chadwick Boseman’s Howard University 2018 Commencement Speech

It takes a village

Jeff Bezos on Regret

  1. Project yourself forward into the future.
  2. Look back on the decision.
  3. Ask “Will I regret not doing this?”
  4. Act accordingly.
Regret: Minimize regrets before getting old
Minimize regrets before getting old

Top 5 To-Do List

Regret: Top To-Do List
Top To-Do List
  1. Don’t ignore your dreams;
  2. Don’t work too much;
  3. Say what you think;
  4. Cultivate friendships;
  5. Be happy.

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