This article on having agency was inspired by Issue 13 of the CFP newsletter.

In their book, The Power of Agency, Paul Napper and Anthony Rao define agency as:

The ability to act as an effective agent for yourself — it requires getting your mind, body, and emotions in balance to think clearly, advocate for yourself, and make choices that create positive things in your life.

We feel stuck when we’re out of balance. When we feel more anxious, depressed, or overwhelmed, the stress hormone, cortisol, increases in the body. This inhibits our ability to make good decisions. Psychologists refer…


This article on having agency was inspired by Issue 13 of the CFP newsletter.

In their book, The Power of Agency, Paul Napper and Anthony Rao define agency as:

The ability to act as an effective agent for yourself — it requires getting your mind, body, and emotions in balance to think clearly, advocate for yourself, and make choices that create positive things in your life.

We feel stuck when we’re out of balance. When we feel more anxious, depressed, or overwhelmed, the stress hormone, cortisol, increases in the body. This inhibits our ability to make good decisions. Psychologists refer…


This article on regret was inspired by Issue 12 of the CFP newsletter.

The theme is regret. I hadn’t thought about this topic much before. In the past, my default answer when asked about regrets was, “I don’t have any “. I was like the guy in “We’re the Millers”. If I told this to President Biden, I bet he’d say, “That’s a bunch of malarkey“.

Everyone has regrets, especially in the short term, which can feel devastating at the time. Short-term regrets become less significant with time. …


This article on regret was inspired by Issue 12 of the CFP newsletter.

The theme of this issue is regret. I hadn’t thought about this topic much before but In the past, my default answer when asked about regrets was, “I don’t have any “. I was like the guy in “We’re the Millers”. If I told this to President Biden, I bet he’d say, “That’s a bunch of malarkey“.

Everyone has regrets, especially in the short term, which can feel devastating at the time. but Short-term regrets become less significant with time. …


The theme of this article is kindness and intimacy. I try to connect this theme with events that inspired Loving Day on June 12th to the present day.

Loving v. Virginia

Loving Day commemorates the day in history when the U.S. Supreme Court unanimously ruled on Loving v. Virginia to strike down all anti-miscegenation laws in 1967 (laws that made mixed-race marriages illegal). Chief Justice Earl Warren’s written decision described Virginia’s ban as one “designed to maintain white supremacy.”

Backstory: The Lovings

Richard and Mildred Loving were married in June 1958 in Washington, DC. They were arrested after returning to Virginia for violating the Racial Integrity…


This article was featured in Issue 11 of the CFP newsletter.

The theme of this article is kindness and intimacy. I try to connect this theme with events that inspired Loving Day on June 12th to the present day.

Loving v. Virginia

Loving Day commemorates the day in history when the U.S. Supreme Court unanimously ruled on Loving v. Virginia to strike down all anti-miscegenation laws in 1967 (laws that made mixed-race marriages illegal). Chief Justice Earl Warren’s written decision described Virginia’s ban as one “designed to maintain white supremacy.”

Backstory: The Lovings

Richard and Mildred Loving were married in June 1958 in Washington, DC. They…


A portion of this article was featured in Issue 9 of the CFP newsletter.

National Creativity Day happened in the U.S. on May 30th. It’s really something we can and should do every day, everywhere.

Twyla Tharp, the great American dancer, and choreographer, who is 79, works just as hard today as she ever did in her 60-year career. Her new PBS documentary, Twyla Moves (Trailer here), explores her journey as a dancer, choreographer, and director. She says creativity is for everyone and is mostly about hard work and developing good work habits. …


A portion of this article was featured in Issue 9 of the CFP newsletter.

National Creativity Day happened in the U.S. on May 30th. It’s really something we can and should do every day, everywhere.

Twyla Tharp, the great American dancer, and choreographer, who is 79, works just as hard today as she ever did in her 60-year career. Her new PBS documentary, Twyla Moves (Trailer here), explores her journey as a dancer, choreographer, and director. She says creativity is for everyone and is mostly about hard work and developing good work habits. …


It’s rare to become a global icon and recognized for your independent “rebel” views coupled with a conviction to want to cooperate with peers who often disagree with you. This is the formula Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg followed through her life with great success. She died on Friday, September 18, 2020, after 5 bouts with cancer.

It’s a paradox to call Ginsburg a rebel, the Notorious RBG, and the great dissenter in one instance and in the next instance as someone who seeks cooperation, compromise, and empathy. It’s true that some people disagreed with Justice Ginsburg’s views but…


It’s rare to become a global icon and recognized for your independent “rebel” views coupled with a conviction to want to cooperate with peers who often disagree with you. This is the formula Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg followed through her life with great success. She died on Friday, September 18, 2020, after 5 bouts with cancer.

It’s a paradox to call Ginsburg a rebel, the Notorious RBG, and the great dissenter in one instance and in the next instance as someone who seeks cooperation, compromise, and empathy. It’s true that some people disagreed with Justice Ginsburg’s views but…

Flavian DeLima

There is no try. Do or do not your best. A marketing nerd curious about people and how to a good life. Run a podcast & events @collab4purpose

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